Standing Out

And the tree was happy.

And the tree was happy.

“And so the boy cut off her branches and carried them away to build his house.

And the tree was happy.”

 

I recently read Shel Silverstein’s “The Giving Tree” to my students. 

 

If you haven’t read it, it’s a wonderfully sad story about a little boy and a tree.

This tree loves the boy,

and the boy loves the tree.

 

He swings from her branches, eats her apples, and sleeps in her shade.

It’s a beautiful friendship.

 

But as the boy grows older, he goes off to live his life,

leaving the tree sad and alone.

 

The boy comes back every now and again and tells the tree his worries and desires.

With each visit, the tree offers some of herself to the boy.

Her apples, so he can sell them and make money.

Her branches, to build a house.

Her trunk, to build a boat and sail away.

And finally, her stump for him to sit on and rest.

 

The tree gives everything she has to the boy.

Because she loves him.

And the tree was happy.

What a sad, yet beautiful story.

And what contrast it is to the mindset of today’s culture.

 

“Don’t cross oceans for people who wouldn’t step over a puddle for you.”

“Choose your happiness over everything.”

“That’s the problem with putting other people first. You’ve taught them you come second.”

 

With the “put yourself first” mentality being poured into us,

how do we know the right way to love others?

 

Does love mean sacrificing ourselves for others like the giving tree? 

Or do we only love those who will give something back like culture preaches?

 

I don’t know.

All I know is what God’s word tells us about love.

It is powerful.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,

that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

-John 3:16

 

“But love your enemies, do good to them,

and lend to them without expecting to get anything back.” 

-Luke 6:35

 

“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

-John 15:13

 

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”

-Romans 12:10

 

This kind of love that the Bible talks about isn’t dependent on anything. 

It is given without condition, expecting nothing in return.

 

Maybe it means sitting with someone as they fall apart.

Maybe it means forgiveness.

Maybe it means letting someone go.

Maybe it means giving everything.

 

However it looks, it all comes from Him.

God created love, and He is love.

 

And it is beautiful.

 

 

 

 

 

Posted by Leanne DeKay in Standing Out
Time has not been wasted.

Time has not been wasted.

Time has not been wasted.

 

Maybe you are like me,

and have found yourself in your upper 20’s or beyond and not married.

And you know what? It’s ok to be ok with it.

 

Do you hope to be married and have a family at some point?

I’m sure you do.

 

But that doesn’t mean your life up until now

hasn’t been purposeful and meaningful.

Because it has.

Your time has still been well spent.

In fact, some of your most favorite things in life may have happened, in part,

as a result of not being committed to someone in your 20’s.

 

Because you were not married,

maybe you had all the time to make lifelong friends in college.

 

Because you were not married, 

maybe you entered a new community as an individual,

rather than someone’s wife.

 

Maybe you learned how to live on your own

and be independent in every way. 

 

Maybe you have had the freedom to meet up with friends at any time

without having to check with someone first.

 

You’ve likely dated and had important relationships,

finding out what you’re really looking for in a husband

and a marriage.

 

Maybe you’ve experienced heartbreak and come out stronger

and with more depth.

 

Maybe you’ve gone on last minute summer trips and weekend road trips.

 

I know you’ve followed passions,

served people around you, 

and made an impact.

 

You’ve spent extra time with family and friends.

 

But maybe most important of all,

you have had time to grow and develop as a person.

As an individual.

 

Of course, some people have been able to fulfill those things

while being married.

 

And absolutely getting married young comes with its own set of blessings,

I am sure.

But I think God knew some of us needed the freedom and the lessons first.

And the person you are now at 27, 28, 29, 30… knows in your heart that younger you

needed more time.

 

And for that, I am thankful for the way God provides and prevents

according to His timeline.

Not ours.

 

It’s not always in the way we want,

but in the way we need.

 

And anytime spent learning,

growing,

serving,

experiencing,

and preparing…

is not time wasted.

 

Posted by Leanne DeKay in Standing Out
To the friend who is doing great things.

To the friend who is doing great things.

To the friend who is doing great things.

 

I. Am. So. Proud. Of. You.

 

I have watched you blossom into this incredible person.

Don’t get me wrong, you have always been incredible.

 

But look at all of the obstacles you have overcome.

Look at all of the hardships you have gone through.

Look at all of the hurt, struggles, and disappointments.

 

You made it through all of it.

And, wow. Look at you now.

 

I can see so clearly how much stronger you are,

how much you’ve grown as a person. 

 

You are out there making a difference.

 

I know your struggles aren’t over.

I know pain will find its way to you again,

the way that it does.

 

But I also know you can handle anything.

You have proven it.

 

And yet, if there comes a time that something feels too heavy,

Or if anything dares to take away your light,

know that I am here.

 

Rooting for you.

Caring for you.

Praying for you.

Lifting you up.

 

In the meantime, keep being the wonderful person that you are.

 

You have blown me away,

and I can’t wait to see what you do next.

 

Posted by Leanne DeKay in Standing Out