Time has not been wasted.

 

Maybe you are like me,

and have found yourself in your upper 20’s or beyond and not married.

And you know what? It’s ok to be ok with it.

 

Do you hope to be married and have a family at some point?

I’m sure you do.

 

But that doesn’t mean your life up until now

hasn’t been purposeful and meaningful.

Because it has.

Your time has still been well spent.

In fact, some of your most favorite things in life may have happened, in part,

as a result of not being committed to someone in your 20’s.

 

Because you were not married,

maybe you had all the time to make lifelong friends in college.

 

Because you were not married, 

maybe you entered a new community as an individual,

rather than someone’s wife.

 

Maybe you learned how to live on your own

and be independent in every way. 

 

Maybe you have had the freedom to meet up with friends at any time

without having to check with someone first.

 

You’ve likely dated and had important relationships,

finding out what you’re really looking for in a husband

and a marriage.

 

Maybe you’ve experienced heartbreak and come out stronger

and with more depth.

 

Maybe you’ve gone on last minute summer trips and weekend road trips.

 

I know you’ve followed passions,

served people around you, 

and made an impact.

 

You’ve spent extra time with family and friends.

 

But maybe most important of all,

you have had time to grow and develop as a person.

As an individual.

 

Of course, some people have been able to fulfill those things

while being married.

 

And absolutely getting married young comes with its own set of blessings,

I am sure.

But I think God knew some of us needed the freedom and the lessons first.

And the person you are now at 27, 28, 29, 30… knows in your heart that younger you

needed more time.

 

And for that, I am thankful for the way God provides and prevents

according to His timeline.

Not ours.

 

It’s not always in the way we want,

but in the way we need.

 

And anytime spent learning,

growing,

serving,

experiencing,

and preparing…

is not time wasted.